🧡 Intimacy Isn’t One Size Fits All

Sex and intimacy are not just about the physical act—they’re about how each partner feels seen, desired, safe, and connected. This workbook is designed to help both partners better understand what they personally need for intimacy to feel inviting, satisfying, and emotionally safe.This is not a critique session—it’s a connection session.

📌 Instructions

1. Individually complete the Intimacy Insight Sheet.

2. Set aside time to share your answers calmly and respectfully.

3. Use the Couples Conversation Template to guide your talk.

📝 Intimacy Insight Sheet (Individual Reflection)

·       1. When it comes to sex, what helps me want it—not just do it?

·       2. What’s my ideal frequency?

·       3. Do I prefer:   - Spontaneity?   - Scheduling?   - A mix of both?

·       4. On a scale from 1–10, how important is foreplay to me? How often do I want it?

·       5. Rank 1–5: How important are these?  

- Flirting throughout the day  

- Physical affection  

- Emotional safety  

- Initiation from my partner  

- Privacy/time without interruption

·       6. What makes sex feel like a chore? What makes it feel like a gift?

·       7. What could help us create more space for intimacy right now?

💬 Couples Conversation Template

Start with this:

“I want to know you better—not just what you do, but what you feel when it comes to intimacy. I want us to be more in sync, and I know that means learning how to love each other with intention—not assumption.”

1. What stood out to you about your own answers?

2. What surprised or impacted you from hearing your partner's answers?

3. Where do you both align naturally?

4. Where is there a difference that needs grace and intentional compromise?

5. What can each of you start doing this week to make intimacy easier and more meaningful?

6. What’s one thing you can both agree to try or tweak for the next 2 weeks?

✅ Final Notes

- There’s no “wrong” answer—only honest ones.

- Goal: Understanding, not fixing.

- Bonus: Write your partner a short note or text sharing one thing you appreciated from this conversation.