What started as a divinely orchestrated union quickly fell apart when we decided to do things our own way.

There was a time when marriage felt like a prison sentence, not a covenant. We weren’t teammates, we were opponents. And if I’m being honest, neither of us was fixing it.

I(coach bear) hated marriage. I felt unseen, unheard, and resentful. The weight of responsibilities, unspoken wounds, and emotional disconnection pushed me further and further away—not just from my spouse, but from myself. And instead of facing it, I ran. Ran into avoidance, into infidelity, into a version of myself I never thought I’d become.

Sidni, on the other hand, was fighting—but not always in the right way. Her words cut deep, her emotions overwhelmed, and though she wanted connection, her approach often pushed me further away. It was a cycle of hurt, reaction, and destruction. Anxiety, resentment, and broken trust became the foundation of our home.

And then came the breaking point. She found everything in my phone. Every lie. Every betrayal. I was kicked out, and we spent six months apart.

We separated with the intent of divorce, not healing. We weren’t working on ourselves for each other. We were done.

Or so we thought.

The Moment Everything Changed

In the middle of separation, everything I had done, the damage, the betrayal, the avoidance, hit me like a ton of bricks. It wasn’t just about losing my marriage. It was about losing myself.

And for the first time, I didn’t run. I hit rock bottom and turned to God.

Not to fix my marriage.
Not to convince  Sidni to take me back.
But because I was broken and needed healing.

At the same time, God was leading Sidni to do something unthinkable—to still pray for me, to still cover me, even when she had every reason to let go. She invited me to church, and slowly, I started to notice something… change.

Not forced.
Not fake.
Real transformation.

And then, it happened. Without prompting. Without pressure.

We both realized… we wanted to try again.

A Marriage Made New

But this time, we didn’t just try in our own strength. We did what we had refused to do before: we surrendered it to God.

And He did what only He can do—He made it right.

Today, our marriage is stronger than ever. Not because we are perfect, but because we allowed God to lead. Where there was once infidelity, there is trust. Where there was once division, there is unity. Where there was once resentment, there is love. Now we are on a mission—tasked by God to speak life into marriages and individuals who need the same help we did.

If you’re struggling, if you feel like it’s over, we are living proof that restoration is real.

Your story isn’t over. Let’s write the next chapter—together.